I was vaguely familiar with the term “fob.” It’s an acronym that stands for “fresh off the boat,” a derogatory term for Asian immigrants to this country.
However, a few years ago, a pair of young women named Teresa and Serena Wu decided to take ownership of this negative term and embrace it in a positive way. In doing so, they created the websites mymomisafob.com and mydadisafob.com, places where they could celebrate and find humor in the broken English, passive aggression and unsolicited advice that they’ve spent their lives receiving from their parents.
The two have written a book called “My Mom is a Fob” (Perigee; $12.95), a collection of some of the sweeter, funnier moments culled from the website.
And it is sweet. And funny.
We get an insight onto the world of the “fob.” There are hilarious clothing choices. Funny misunderstandings based around misspellings and mispronunciations. There’s plenty of laughter here; it’s a fairly rich comedic lode to be mined.
Granted, there’s a certain perspective on the humor that I personally lack. It’s funny, sure – but there’s a sense that I’m missing something on a deeper level.
Perhaps that’s why the book feels a bit one-note to me. The joke is funny, but it kind of feels like the same joke over and over again. While that probably works well on the website, in a book it feels a bit repetitive. The richness and depth of the humor is a bit lacking.
That said, the book has its share of laugh-out-loud moments. For me personally, some of the most consistently funny moments in the book involved homosexuality. For whatever reason, it seems that fob moms have a deep-seated terror of the idea that their children might be gay. Don’t get me wrong; there’s nothing hateful here. It’s all very matter-of-fact. Frankly, I think the biggest issue is the fact that homosexuality makes grandchildren considerably less likely.
“My Mom is a Fob” is a light, fun book. Anyone who has had to deal with a parent will find moments of humor here, and those with Asian heritage will likely find even more. The dynamic between mother and child is complicated in any culture. Books like this do a great job of showing us that despite our superficial differences, at our core, we’re all more or less the same.